We learn to shoot the basketball well because opponents reject all our layups. Our friends think they can bully us, too, so we learn to punch them really hard.We begin strength training which stunts our bones further.While some people find that their height doesn't impact dating at all, others may feel that it allows for judgment, fetishization, and stereotyping.In a society where there are ideals of femininity and masculinity, it can be difficult for individuals who don't fit neatly into those boxes.I didn’t want to mention it for the same reason that Tom didn’t want to mention it in his profile: because it’s irrelevant to anything that makes him a good accountant, husband, or father. He’s just been confronted with a very ugly reality that has shaken his confidence in people.
Sure enough, few women give a fair shake to a man who is 5’3”, no matter what else he has going for him. So I tried changing my profile for three days just to see what the difference was between being 5’3″ and 5’10”. And no amount of complaining is going to change it. And why, in God’s name, is it important to stand on your tiptoes to kiss a guy? Is there any legitimate reason not to go out with this amazing, amazing man? Plus, navigating the world of dating is already a mess, so being on an extreme end of any physical spectrum doesn't exactly make it any easier.Kevin: I'm not one to complain about being short, because once you realize you can shop in the children's section and climb on top of things to get to out-of-reach objects, you're pretty much on a level playing field with the rest of the world. I think a lot of guys fetishize the height gap and say things like, "I'm so into you because you're so short," or "It's really hot knowing that I could lift you up in bed," etc.And when every other kid on the field piles on the ball, short boys wait for it to pop out and score a goal on the opponent's or our own net. Girls, who are often taller than boys until middle school, also find us cute -- although, since our height-valued culture makes us feel insecure, we pretend not to look when our crush lets us sneak a peek at her underwear.In baseball, pitchers can't come close to our smaller strike zone so our on-base percentage exceeds 1.000. Middle school bullies assume we are brainiacs and threaten to beat us up unless we provide our homework to copy, and then actually beat us up after receiving their unsatisfactory grades.